Wedding romance without the cheese

Wedding and romance are two words that - not unlike you and your fiancé -simply just fit together. The idea of candlelight and flowers, of love songs and stolen kisses, is enough to send any hopeless romantic into a daydream of epic proportions.

Brisbane, Australia (prHWY.com) March 9, 2013 - Wedding and romance are two words that - not unlike you and your fiancé -simply just fit together. The idea of candlelight and flowers, of love songs and stolen kisses, is enough to send any hopeless romantic into a daydream of epic proportions.
But what about the non-traditional romantics - What if you and your partner laugh at all of those customs that you consider to be cheesy, and think The Notebook is simply a small laptop?
Is there a way to have a wedding that is still filled with just as much loving sentiment but without all of those old traditions and that extra cheese?

First thing's first, you and your partner need to sit down and hash it all out and take control of the wedding before any outside influence is heard.

Before the wedding catalogues come out and the mother-in-laws get involved, the two of you need to take a moment to decide exactly what you both want out of the day. Traditions and expectations aside, the most important thing is that your wedding day reflects both of your personalities.

If a couple's idea of the perfect date involves spending their time in the mosh pit at a Slayer concert, then being serenaded down the aisle by a choir singing 'Ave Maria' may not be the way forward.

Traditions can be important, but not if they make your day feel unnatural. In fact many couples these days are prone to forgo tradition altogether on their big day.

A great example of this is in deciding whether or not to wear a white dress. Now many brides may feel that this is something they could do without, but wonder if the consequent debate they may have to endure with their mother or grandmother is worth it. After all, it's a custom as old as time... isn't it?

Here is a great factoid to help you win your debate: The ritual of wearing white on your wedding day in fact came from a far less sweet and cuddly motive than showing off the bride's purity.

An article published in 2003 by the ABC stated that, in Victorian times Queen Victoria, as a sign of wealth, started "the craze" of wearing white to a wedding. According to the report, back then it was almost impossible to keep white clothing clean and so, by wearing white, the bride was making a statement that she was so wealthy that she could afford to wear the item only once and then discard it.

So basically, she was showing off. Not only that, she was also belittling the poor, who probably could not even afford a loaf of bread, let alone a garment that would only be worn once.
You could say that you aren't wearing white out of principle and respect for those less fortunate - provided you can say it with a straight face.

If not then you could also point out that prior to Queen Victoria, women would get married in any old thing they liked and top it off with a veil and a flower so everyone could tell that she was the bride.

"So mummy and grand mummy, if you would rather I get married in my leather pants and that old tank topI had signed by Tom from Blink182, I would be happy to forgo the black lace gownI originally had in mind."

That ought to do it.

The next thing that needs real consideration from the both of you is the venue for the ceremony.

A church wedding is about as traditional as it gets, and for a church going couple, getting married in a giant cathedral, the colours of the stained glass windows shining down on the alter, may add even more romance to the occasion.

But the same may not be said for couples that still opt for a church wedding despite never attending church on any other occasion. They stand their looking uptight and uncomfortable and then relieved when the whole thing is over. But it's tradition so they bear through it and look forward to the reception.

This too is an unnecessary compromise. Choose a venue that reflects your personality. Whether that is on the beach, in a forest or even in the back room of the pub where you met - the ceremony should be as special and enjoyable for you both as the reception is.

You don't need to listen to twenty different prayers and a hymn sung by your second cousin, whose mother told her she had the X-factor. Not unless you would enjoy that.

Perhaps you would like to write your vows, sing a song, or even tell a joke. Or perhaps you want to cut out the fuss altogether and simply get straight to the 'I do's'. The right wedding celebrant will work with you from start to finish; creating a ceremony that is true to you.

As long as you make sure you both agree on what you want; communicate those wishes clearly to your wedding co-ordinator and marriage celebrant; and ignore the subtle hints of outside parties who think they know better - then you should be able to enjoy your wedding without all those old traditions you were trying to avoid.

By

Michell é brant (Michelle Anderson)


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