There is a big difference between men and women, regardless of the feminists' claim of equality, and I'm not talking about their genitals. Men are practical,
(prHWY.com) January 21, 2013 - NY, NY -- There is a big difference between men and women, regardless of the feminists' claim of equality, and I'm not talking about their genitals. Men are practical, logical and psychical oriented, with an attitude of 'what you see is what you get'. They are led by their brains, not to mention their hormones! Women, on the other hand, are more intuitive, sensitive and emotional. They are led by their hearts.
The mistake we often make is to expect from men to think and act in a similar fashion than we do. For example: perhaps you tell your partner at least once a day that you love him while he, in turn, seldom responds to that. Or, if he does, he will mumble a distracted: 'Yeah, me too...' while watching sport on TV or reading his newspaper.
Emotionally women are givers while men are takers. That is not because men are consciously selfish or ignorant, it is because from the earliest ages they are genetically manipulated to be strong and relentless, to provide for and to rule over women. We had come a long way since the days of cavemen dragging women around by their hair, but in essence the man's logic is still the same as his prehistoric ancestors'. He still wants to be in charge and he still regards emotion as a sign of weakness.
This perception is in direct conflict with the modern trend of women taking over the roles that belonged exclusively to men before. In most households the woman has a career now and in many instances she is the sole provider while her partner staying at home. Although this kind of arrangement seems acceptable to modern society, especially to the women involved, it's a fact that most men feel humiliated being forced to depend on their wife's contribution to their money affairs. This can lead to a strained relationship, resentment toward each other and unnecessary conflict.
Women should keep in mind that men, being what they are, will always rebel against situations where their authority is diminished. For a man to feel complete it's essential to be assured of his place in the hierarchy of the family set-up. If your relationship is important to you, there are some tactics you can use to avoid the pitfalls.
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Always take him in consideration when a decision has to be made. There's nothing that make a man feel more impotent than being ignored when big issues arise. If you know he's not going to like a certain idea you want to implement, say: 'I would like to know what you think' instead of, 'I am going to...'
Treat him as a team-mate instead of criticising him constantly. If you both are working, don't nag because he expects from you to do the cleaning. Give him a hug and ask nicely if he would mind helping you so that both of you can get to bed early or watch a movie together.
If you work harder than he does, don't rub it under his nose to make him feel guiltier than he already does. Say something like: 'I'm so tired, but luckily I have someone like you to make me feel better.'
If you're the sole provider or earn more than he does, don't refer to 'my money' or 'my house' or whatever. It will only increase his sense of inferiority.
Don't hesitate to use a bit of flattering to boost his confidence. Men dote on compliments. Tell him how attractive or strong or clever he still is and he'll brighten up like a sunray breaking through a cloudy sky.
Make him feel important by asking his advice on issues at work or at the club you're a member of or family matters. Let him be part of every aspect of your life so that he won't feel left out.
Let him be the head of the household. As the 'neck' you will be able to steer him in a subtle manner just the way you want him to go!
There is a tendency for some couples to believe that no matter what the situation romance will carry them though. Except the kind of romance they are talking about is of the make believe variety.
In other words they have convinced themselves that the feeling of walking on air which they experience during the beginning phases of their courtship will carry them through. As time progresses they run into the brick wall know as reality. When that happens many find themselves ill prepared to deal with whatever comes next. That's arguably one of the factors that contribute to our high divorce rate as a society.
Building the ideal romantic relationship is never ending. Whether you have been together for one year or thirty there are always things to learn and things that must be done to get closer to that dream relationship. In other words you have to do the grunt work first, foremost and consistently.
Things like:
1. Talking It Through
No matter how much you may be in love with your significant other and vice versa the two of you are going to face many challenges that test just how strong your love is. That's why you need to keep the lines of communication open at all times. Getting a sense of where the other person stands on a certain issues can be of major assistance to the overall health of the relationship.
2. Got Their Back
It is important that both of you know and accept that you are in this thing together. It is dangerous when one spouse thinks they can count on the other only to find out they are always taking someone else's side or they do not have the stomach to go through the rough patches with you. The first sign of trouble they bail out.
3. A Little Humility
A disagreement has the chance to escalate. Don't wait for your significant other to take the high road. You do it. Always keep the big picture in mind. Any thing that can do damage to your relationship should be avoided. And few things can cause more damage than pride.
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